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Healthy Anger
Anger is not a pleasant experience, but it can be a tool to raise our awareness of what is acceptable and what is not.
It’s Ok To Say No
I’m a people pleaser and while that’s a noble trait, it’s also a burden. I don’t know how to say no without disappointing someone. I hate disappointing anyone. So, to my own detriment I often agree to something that takes from me.
It took decades, but recently I got really angry at myself for being such a gullible push over. I finally felt used and found the strength to say no. It scared the living daylights out of me when I saw the look on a friend’s face. Then she said, “OK, no problem.” I was floored. She smiled. It was ok. We were ok.
Being Dependable Can Be A Burden
I want to be dependable and reliable. These were important traits that I thought defined me as a good person.
A good friend.
A good daughter.
Just good.
The funny thing is, I couldn’t rely on myself. I’ve often heard that charity starts at home. Well, my mind and body are my home and I recently realized that I was neglecting it.
